We carry many identities in our body, which emerge as needed to serve the situation. We have work identities and play identities. There is a ritual of transition that we go through, sometimes instantly and other times slowly and visibly when we transition from one identity to another. What are your transition patterns:
- When you transition from your humorous identity to your sad identities, how would someone know?
- Is there a ritual you need to go through when you return home from an absence lasting more than an hour?
- After sex, do you need time to your self to lay there silently - or do you need to talk a lot? How do you like to transition into daily life again?
- When a relationship ends, what are your needs and patterns?
- After intense physical exercise, how do transition to stillness?
- When you need alone space, how do you exit a public scene?
- When you are at work, what do you need before you can be present to a deeply personal matter?
These are a few areas to consider. Some people transition very easily and fluidly. For others the transitions are intense and time-consuming. What matters is knowing your own needs and patterns well enough to communicate those in order to create flow and discuss difficult transitions with loved ones.
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